5 LESSONS ON FRIENDSHIP FROM THE NOVEL – OLIVE BY EMMA GANNON

Leaving something behind isn’t just about having a child who will roam the earth after you’ve gone. A legacy is made up of everything you’ve ever done. It’s everything you leave behind. It’s every choice you make. It’s every person you meet. It’s every feeling you’ve passed on. It’s every story you tell.

OLIVE BY EMMA GANNON

Olive By EMMA Ganno – Book Blurb

Independent.
Adrift.
Anxious.
Loyal.
Kind.
Knows her own mind.

OLIVE is many things, and it’s ok that she’s still figuring it all out, navigating her world without a compass. But life comes with expectations, there are choices to be made, boxes to tick and – sometimes – stereotypes to fulfil. And when her best friends’ lives start to branch away towards marriage and motherhood, leaving the path they’ve always followed together, Olive starts to question her choices – because life according to Olive looks a little bit different.

Moving, memorable and a mirror for every woman at a crossroads, OLIVE has a little bit of all of us. Told with great warmth and nostalgia, this is a modern tale about the obstacle course of adulthood, milestone decisions, and the ‘taboo’ about choosing not to have children.

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Book Review of Olive by Emma

The first thing that attracted me to this book was its title. Yes, I was biased because my name is Olivia, and here is a book that bears my name, forgive me but I had to read it.

The second reason why I did read it was because of the blurb, here was Olive trying to figure out life and still making choices, I supposed this book might be the perfect way to start the year since I’m currently at a crossroad and trying to make good life choices.

Olive is a book about friendship, relationships and motherhood.

The author uses the first-person narrative for this story, we see everything from the main character’s POV.

The novel’s language is simple and very easy to understand.

The book started with goodbyes, Olive had just broken up with her boyfriend whom she had been dating for 9 years.

Hold up!!!!!

The Nigerian woman in me screamed what!!!!

How can I date a man for 9 whole years, why!!!!!!

Let’s head back to the book now, lol.

Olive and Jacobs’s relationship is quite peculiar and has its own story as does every other relationship. I think they had a beautiful relationship because you see the thing is that every relationship has its purpose and that a relationship didn’t end in marriage doesn’t mean it was a failure(this is a topic I will address sometime in the future).

Their relationship ended because they both clearly wanted different things, this was the one thing they couldn’t compromise on, it was Motherhood.

Olive didn’t want to be a mother. Motherhood is one of the major themes explored in this novel.

Another major theme the book explored is the theme of friendship. We see the friendship that Olive shares with Bea, Cecily, and Isla and how it evolves.

Lagos was also mentioned in this book(expresses shock). I was absolutely shocked when I saw it, I kept on staring at the word “Lagos”.

Apparently the girls had a vacation in Lagos, they even visited the beach(lol).

There were lots of thought-worthy moments contained in this book and I will be sharing five helpful life lessons I got while reading this book

FIVE LESSONS FROM THE NOVEL OLIVE BY EMMA GANNON

  • IT IS OKAY TO NOT KNOW EVERYTHING ABOUT YOUR FRIENDS.

A lot of people think being best friends with someone means you must know all the itty gritty details about that person. This is not true.

The important stuff yes, but not every detail. I saw a post on Twitter where a girl was lamenting that she saw her best friend’s wedding via social media. Yes, her best friend. This is obviously not the kind of detail I was referring to, this is important stuff. Obviously, she doesn’t even consider you a friend.

Sometimes, our friends might not want to confide in us about their fears and insecurities because it comes with shame. Your duty is to let them know that you’re there for them, that you are a safe place and there’s no condemnation whatsoever.

The fact that you do not know that your friend prefers her small chops with a bit of egusi doesn’t make her a bad friend. Please be serious lol.

Being friends doesn’t mean you have to see each other every day, you can always plan the occasional dates and holidays to catch up. This is one of the friendship rituals I loved in this book.

You are not the same person as your friend, and that is okay.

Yes, you are friends.

No, you aren’t the same.

I think it’s actually unhealthy to expect that your friends have exactly the same interests as you.

Olive is career oriented, whereas Bea is family-oriented, and their friendship still works.

Please do not judge your friends harshly, do not even judge them at all because you think their dreams isn’t “ambitious” enough. People have different goals, desires and wants in life.

It is okay to encourage your friend to be more especially when you think they’re living below their potential but do not turn your noses up at them because you think your career or life path is more worthy than theirs.

Change is constant.

Change is the only constant thing in life.

My mom used to say, the fact that three friends play together now doesn’t mean they will play together forever.

People change!

This is one of the things Olive struggled with, she assumed that their lives would be the same forever, how is that possible?

They were no longer college students, these were now grown women, of course, change was inevitable.

As people grow, they change, they have new problems and new experiences.

Even as individuals, we have to learn to evolve with the changing times. Stop wishing things will go back to the way they used to be, take advantage of this change, see how it can make you better.

Do not be afraid of change, welcome it.

Another’s achievement isn’t your failure.

This is one thing Olive struggled with in the book and a lot of us also struggle with this.

Stop judging yourself based on other people’s achievement.

Yes, you might be friends but you are not the same. Their milestones are different from yours.

Learn to celebrate with them without putting yourself down.

Do not alienate yourself from your friends because you think they’re doing better than you.

  • Everyone needs a support system

Friends and family are usually a very great support system and this book restates that fact. I’ve heard stories of people getting married and then alienating themselves from their friends and family, that’s a huge red flag.

Never forsake the fellowship of friends because you’re married. Except they’re toxic and it’s necessary to cut them off. Still, your spouse should not be the only one you have in your corner.

Those are the five lessons I got about friendship from the novel.

The second central theme in this book is motherhood and there are so many lessons to be learned. I want you to purchase the book and find these lessons yourself.

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I totally recommend this book. It’s entertaining, fun, and raises a lot of issues faced by modern women and mothers alike.

ARC PROVIDED BY NETGALLEY FOR AN HONEST REVIEW.